Therapy for Perfectionism in Motherhood

For the mom who’s exhausted from trying to get it all right — and terrified of what will happen if she doesn’t.

You’re the mom who:

  • Plans every detail down to the birthday cupcake color — and still worries you missed something

  • Apologizes for snapping even though you haven’t had a moment to yourself in days

  • Replays every bedtime interaction, wondering if you said the wrong thing

  • Feels like a failure if the house is messy, the schedule isn’t tight, or your kid has a meltdown

  • Does everything for everyone — and still lies awake wondering if it was enough

You’re not too sensitive.
You’re not overreacting.
You’ve been stuck in survival mode… and perfectionism has been your coping mechanism.

“If I don’t do it perfectly… I’ll mess everything up.”

A woman holding a child points at colorful hot air balloons in the sky.

But here’s what perfectionism in motherhood really looks like:

It’s waking up already behind.
It’s losing your temper, then drowning in guilt.
It’s pushing yourself to be “better” while slowly losing sight of who you even are.

And maybe worst of all?
It’s the belief that if you slow down, everything will fall apart.

  • You say “no” — without guilt or spiraling

  • You trust yourself to be a good enough mom (not a perfect one)

  • You stop overfunctioning in your home, your marriage, your life

  • You actually rest without trying to earn it

  • You feel joy again — not just relief that you got through the day

Therapy with Me Can Help You:

  • Unpack the deep-rooted beliefs about worth, achievement, and motherhood

  • Reconnect with the you underneath the pressure

  • Build shame-free boundaries that don’t make you feel like a bad mom

  • Learn how to stop spiraling when things aren’t “just right”

  • Let go of the mental load that tells you: “It’s all on me”

This isn’t just venting.
It’s a safe, supportive space to untangle perfectionism from your identity — and finally feel free.

What transformation can look like:

Virtual Therapy for Perfectionist Moms in California

Whether you’re crying behind the bathroom door, Googling “why am I so angry after bedtime,” or faking calm at soccer pickup — you don’t have to keep doing this alone.

Therapy with me is warm, real, and collaborative. We’ll go deep, but we’ll also laugh, breathe, and rebuild together.

Still Wondering If Therapy Is Right for You?

Maybe you’ve told yourself:
"I just need to try harder.”
"It’s not that bad — other moms handle more.”
"I should be grateful.”

But you’re burning out trying to hold it all together.

Therapy isn’t about doing more.
It’s about doing it differently — with support, softness, and space for you.

You don’t have to be perfect to be a good mom

You just have to be supported.
And that’s where we begin.

I have space for you, exactly as you are.